How To Make Resistance Futile

You know when you're stuck? When you want to break a bad habit, or start new one and can't get any traction? 

You make some progress and then your willpower goes on a coffee break and you're right back where you don't want to be. 

You are not a weak-willed piece of trash because you're struggling. 

Remember the Borg in Star Trek, that creepy power hungry collective of cyborgs? Their motto was "Resistance is futile." 

Your resistance is NOT futile. Here's why and how to make peace with it. 

Your resistance always has positive intention. It wants the best for you, and it's afraid you don't know any better. Plus it hates change. 

When you assume your stuckness means well, you can approach it with curiosity and compassion. And if you do that, it will tell you why. 

Take a minute. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and let yourself relax fully. 

Ask your resistance what is it that it's trying to protect you from? 

What are the benefits of stuckness? 

Let the answers float up, and let yourself feel the love and concern behind those answers. 

Then think about all the reasons you want to change. 

What are those benefits? Can you make the changes while also meeting the goals of your resistance? 

If your resistance believes that letting go means you'll be better off, it will happily take a break. 

Resistance just needs to be seen and heard. Reassurance is what makes resistance futile.